29 October 2007

Congratulation ! 恭喜、恭喜!

我十歲時已做姑姐了,三十八歲那年,大姪兒結婚,我被稱為姑奶奶、當他的可愛女兒出世後,孩子們都將會叫我着"細姑婆"‧才四十歲已被叫姑婆級了,勁嗎?(我還好些,三姐排行第三,姪兒的孩子們就叫她三姑婆,好彩在"婆"之前不用再加多一個數字--> 六! 要不然我三姐一定會乾脆好像洋人一般稱呼她名字好了!)Congratulation to my niece Fun-Fun who just accepted her boyfriend proposal.
We all so happy for her and really looking forward to see her walking the aisle with her love one next year.
To you, my niece's SF and other half, Here are the congratulation cards I specially make for you...Some elements used on third card, credit to DST

25 October 2007

snow today 昨天晴天,今早下雪

A Dramatic changed..The weather! Today high only 5 degree and yesterday was high +23.
This... is Calgary!昨天晴天,今早下雪,氣溫只有高五度,卡加利就是一個有不測的風雲城市。
仔仔却很兴奋,等不及下課回家去yard玩雪,我就怕怕!Yesterday we caught many lady bugs in our back yard, we store them in the cage with wet towel, food and some leaves, thanks goodness, we save these lady bugs from the snow, or else they will be freezing and cover with snow, *mind you I may have underestimate it, all creatures and inserts know how to live and adapt fine in nature.

24 October 2007

+22 degree 中秋。秋高氣爽

What a beautiful day in middle of October in Calgary. Temp. now is +22 degree.
Thanks to the Chinook wind bringing such a wonderful warm air in middle of Fall. We've been having so many warm days this week, very nice. How about your end Mamabok?
We went outside to catch some lady bugs, watering, blowing bubble...
just enjoying the good warm day that will not last until tomorrow..
天氣好,人都爽!太好了,這幾天的天氣很暖尤其是今天氣溫達到二十二度,不用穿jacket,當被太陽曬時,皮膚還需要擦sunblock咧!已中秋了,氣侯還有二十度以上、難以相信!受地球暖化影響?Tomorrow temperature will drop to 5 degree, no surprise Calgary often get warmer air call CHINOOK weather a day or two, give us a break from the cold air, but it will goes back to normal temperature after.

Maple tree found in Calgary

Weeks ago I posted Fall in Calgary Pictures, Terrick was saying "if it's colorful maple leaves it will added stronger Fall essence ". I agree, but Calgary is a Prairie land, hardly any maple tree grow here.
Little I know, when I was driving along Centre Street, I saw a very mature pretty Maple tree, I can't believe my eyes, with a closer look, (it was a Nova Maple tree) .
Every morning, when we are on the way to school, we love watching the tree along side, waiting it changing leave and fall.. I wanna to snap more pictures after, but got too much tight schedule, unable to stop by.....
One Morning, We drove by as usual,,,,,,,,, oh my ! The one and only maple tree in Centre street cut down so much branches!! I can't believed what I saw, we went there closer, indeed, it's chopped off so much and the tree don't look life anymore.
The owner saw us, and she came out telling me so many people got upset with her cutting down the branches, and she explained she have no choice, she is an 80th years old senior, the tree is about 39 years old, very tall, big and she cannot handle anymore leaves fallen the ground every Fall season. I told her, If I have known early, My sister and I won't mind helping her to clean up the leaves every year,, but it's too late now. My boy is upset too, because he knows mommy love the tree so much!
Indeed, it's sad to see such a nice tree and it's a maple tree in middle of Prairie city land, got cut down so much.. we went there again after school, we collected some leaves, seed and say goodbye!
The eldest lady is Mrs Bernie, she felt very bad about this but she just do what is best for her, (she own the tree, is in her lot.) mind you she spend quite a lot of money to get the tree TRIM off.
She was so nice to us, she shown us her garden and asking me to come back in Spring, she will have young shoots for me to plant, Yes, I want to get as many as possible, hopping I can grow a nice tall maple tree in my back yard!
Later that day, I think I saw another Maple tree in someone backyard, I have to check it out someday.

21 October 2007

Water Garden 水草園

These water-plants pictures taken in our water tank. One of the serious hobby that my husband love, enjoy and passion about. All the plants grow very pretty and healthy looking, he spend a lot of heart and takes really good care of them。It's very pleasant to watch especially when he change the water weekly, it look so clean, so fresh and lot of bubble too.. so, I've started a blog for him to show his serious business or maybe show off a bit.. Monosolenium tenerum (erroneously “Pellia”)

Moss ball (shipped from Thailand) Ninja grass
Sword (this flower from a Sword plant)

20 October 2007

new member in the family 動物的影响力....

Today boyboy daddy bought a pair of FIRE BELLY NEWT for him, it cost only $4.99+tax (on sale). Fire belly Newt is an amphibian, quite small specie, kind of like a house lizard, the one we got is about 3 inches long.
My boy has been begging for a lizard pet for quite sometime but we just don't think he is ready (he's only 5) to take on this kind of responsibility just yet. But when he saw these creatures today and he asked if he could have it for pet since he is not allow to have lizards, sound fair to me, because they are relatively easy to care for and inexpensive..we granted his wishes since he came out with this thoughful suggestion... My boy name her Happy and Rocky, a male Fire Belly Newt

不過仔仔可能太投入,時不時模彷某一種動物的行為、止舉和姿態;初時也瞞可愛,後來見每一条瞞新的睡的膝部通通部磨薄了,才發覺仔仔好喜歡扮動物一班的彎下身背向天,用手用膝頭奔跑, 引人發笑,幸好我們家是鋪地毯的、要不是擦傷膝頭可知痛了。


18 October 2007

Reborn 一隻手拍不響,我才不笨出手拍

my problem was so small to compare with people in need in the world, like the hungry children, the poor, senior, people battle their life in hospital, in war ect.. I got out of focus, I got too bitchy and realize I killed so much good cell, I can't afford it, they are too precious. The flu season is here, I need them to battle for my good health, why waste my attention on small people like that, I actually pity the ex-boss who will have 1 employee next week on, and I heard she is facing a lot of challenges which she ask for it, I don't need to go on to proof what she likes.
I am all charge up, thanks to all who put in encouraging words in the comments note. No need to stress about it! she is OUT!
Peace.. my sisters is right, what goes around come around..

一個大好年青人Terrick你, 還有Huisia, Domestic Goddess, zara, zaria mama, 謝謝留言支持


冷瀞過後再思考才發覺也真的沒什么大不了,反正都离開了,何必容許她打擾我平靜的生活、可能有如Domestic Goddess 說,談可容易,做是有難度、可是不去pratice又怎能成功呢!DG *Hug*, I did it!


再說一向的她整天也不只愛說我一個,每個同事也令教過。她的生活富有但是為人太沈悶 、無感覺的、枯的。很多時候她叫我約她一起去做户外活动,我又常常不做好人,不聲不理的,因為她和我只限於雇主雇員關係,不可能越過,幸好我一向保持這關係。記得她曾說過我這人很straight forward,受不了,(我是見她凡眾"黑"人憎オ這樣對她) 她說過她是老板不喜歡請人回來受气的 ,(她忘了我是請回來做artwork的不是阿四!) 由此可見我可能一向不怎樣應她的要求,她不爽我!Huisia妳說的對,妒忌出賣了她人格!你還說的有實力那怕沒人請,我才記起那無良雇主的business partner 請我過檔,我推了因為間接中我一樣要替那無良雇主做artwork的!對!我不該認為這無良雇主能損我能力。




Terrike,你說的好-"部落格確實是一個很好的發泄管道" 這花气力大作文章療法真有效哩!嘿Terrike謝謝你帮我取"五月媽媽"這名稱,我用它了!

17 October 2007

I am angry!

I was hopping to some Calgary blogger to have some good read, I come across “Writing is a form of therapy" that The angry nurse posted in his blog, I like that description..

I had a bad day, sleepless night, something really bother for a while (my previous work), I managed to withdraw from it, but I am pull back in. You see , in my culture, and my oldest sister's use to teaches me, "words cannot hurt me, but stick can" mean to bear; to endure; what come around goes around, be humbler, be generous, harmless, live in peace, but now I realized in some situation, I can't think like that, I want to write about my mean calloused ex-boss that I can't keep silent anymore. 忍无可忍!

Yes, I am piss off! My ex-boss is a mean lady, I left the company (total of 3 employees work place) months ago, she kept talking behind my back, sharing our confidential conversations with other co-worker just to prove her point of view, because I've gave her feedback about the management always make a rash decision that it affected me, at least I told her generously and be upfront, and we talked it out, she acted very professionally taking the feedback positively and I thought this is the end of it! I've share my thought and now I move on!

What I've discovered in this crucial world is, when you have value, you are the favorite, many request easily granted, no questions ask, but when your knowledge or attendance not to a maximum benefits to a person, services or organization, you are DONE! Million of excuses will be available to turn down your requests, or maybe make you feel foolish if you still show up. That's what happen to me, I decides to get out. 吃一個虧 !學一個乖 !

I was warned not to share skills and knowledge too much, this is keeping a job security strategy, but I never believe in it, and stupid me sharing all my knowledges, skills to other worker and my duty was eliminated, not my co-worker fault, is her stripe out my work hour, take away the work from my desk. Since her mind have set, no way I beg her or pretend it doesn't bother me. I kept quiet and observe, keep on convince myself not to push the limit, burn the bridge. Time to get out and move on, I'm confidence that I still have my values, my priority, maybe God have different plans for me and I believe it's a bless to be able to spend good quality time with family, especially my precious son, work is just one way to make living.

However, after I was gone, she is pinching me little by little and putting all the blame on me to my ex-co-workers, I thankful for friends who defense for me and share what goes on my back, I am happy they stand by me, but this doesn't make me feel better now, I am piss because the Ex-boss think she have the right in the world to manipulates the whole situation and thinking there is nothing I can do or know about it!

During my services there, when we have meeting about work issues, she never focus the topic, she avoid the problems, she push the problems to other co-worker like she always do, she complained how she is unhappy about so and so performance, partly the problem were my problem, she expect me to deal with the person, because she have no gut to confront the worker, she said to me she don't want to hurt and be mean to him or her. Hello!!! My job title is a desktop publisher not Supervisor! why put me in this position?
The other interesting part and laugh my head off that she called me home at 10 o'clock at night, complaining so and so performance is not up to her expectation, wanting me not to social with him!?? asking me to say somethings to him so he work hard?? What the heck? What kind of Employee Relations she demonstrated, only 3 staffs and she can't manage??! I refuse to get involve and will not fall in her crab.

Let me tell you how is my work environment, we have no 15 minutes short break, continue work even when we are having our lunch, very often she dislike us talking because she said the work load have dead line, less talk more work. We pay by hourly, when no work, you go home, when there's more work, stay back and finished, We take it, no problem, I can take it, and now she blaming me for being too talkative with him and phone me at night telling me to avoid my co-worker at work, do not interrupt him, she said her target is him not me, but she need me to co-operate with her, also it's not fair that she just telling him not to talk at work, that's is why she have to tell me not to talk as well, but she stress that this is not about me, she only target him! Ha?? What kind of idiot mind set is this? Blaaaaaaady ! I can't believe I work there for 2 and half years,??!!

She complained it was the co-worker who created the tension between all staffs (4 staffs including her) on my last day (as usual), I stop her telling me about others, I am more interest about my request before I leave. This is how she practice her Employment Relations management, she try to change my focus and if I shift, she don't need to deal with it?

Before I leave, I got upsad that she gave me tons of excuses for turning down our verbal agreements, I later found out from government employment officer that it was not as complicated as they thought. I proof to her and gave the feedback that her decision was over reacted, but I said it's pass, I just want her to know the fact and truth (perhaps it's for me to reveal her cunning management), but I said I will not going to appear the matter, I take it and leave it there.

Now I've left, she went on and talk about me to other employees, which the employee's find it unappropriated, they stop the conversation and not willing to listen anymore. I know it all, I was patient, I bear, I don't work there now and be strong, she is trying to hurt me, doesn't mean she will!

Yesterday, she making same excuses and blame on me again !! she told my ex- co-worker (who quit this week) she cannot promises his requests because I put her in a bad situation, She spended whole hour complained about me and not get her conversation straight, my co-worker lead her back to his request and stress out this is all about him, he has no interest to listen how she back stab me, the whole conversation is always out of focus, what the heck! Why she do that? Where is her work ethic?? she told the worker she is upset I told the officers about what happenings, she upset I challenged her decision! What the heck! she is so unsecured about her management? Putting people down will make her stand tall? How come she never face to face talk to me then?

I will call the labor office and find out what is my right, I had enough, I left the place partly because of poor management, my working hour cut down, someday she hint me to leave early, so I withdraw myself and decided spending good quality time with my son and family. I thought I did fine last few weeks, I left with pride, peace no more stress, what between her and me, I kept to me, funny things is she bought me lunch, talked so nicely on my last day of work, for goodness sake, she's fake, she's ignorance, now she intrude my peaceful life now, this is a harassments! I take no more, I am angry! Don't leave me alone, I will bite back!

I always think leave the job with good manner, don't risk the hard work and good performance I've did during my employment years, this is part of my work history, this place proof my work experience, my ethic, so, she will be in my resume, That's why I need to be positive, do not push the limit, I have to swallow my anger and rights, so I can go a long way. But does this mean I slave myself? Does it mean I have to tolerate the emotional torture ? Does this mean her words against mine without my knowledge? Does this mean she have all the rights to destroy my future undertakings without me having face to face to defense myself? Employee Vs Employer? Tell me where is my rights stand in this situations? Can she hold her reference against me in future, in this case, what is my right?
Then why she handed me a nice reference letter, and told me all kind of good things, but she actually don't mean it?

I want to tell her to Leave me alone
, evaluate her own behavior, her actions, it's naive, immature, childish...for someone in the golden years. People said the older you gets the wiser, this don't seem to suite her!..I know she is insecure, she is rich, but her heart is empty, her loneness is not my fault, don't take it out on me!

14 October 2007

河水勾起的回憶、 The River evoked memories of my childhood.

睇見仔仔係河邊玩,勾起童年時的回憶,回想以前小時候在家鄉 "Petaling Tin" 家境並不富有,玩具很少,不過小時候的玩伴多和玩意非常多,當中也包括河流邊玩,並不需要什麽玩具也可以玩一大餐,當年的日子過的最自在、最開心!
而仔仔今天一樣在河边逗留時,他就不能全面投入去玩了,因為我同佢daddy都偏執D、担心佢旣安全囉!唔可以行近,唔可以跳,唔可以依D果D!無計啦!現在D細路寶貝嗎!Already third week of Fall, the weather is unbelievable warm and nice. Hubby make us take a walk just outside the trail rather than sitting on the coach and watch t.v.
Indeed, such a nice weather don't last very long, many people taking the chance to take a walk with family and pets before cold air hit.
Along the path way, there is a river, Boy just love stopping there and hang around, watching him, I have so many memory returns, playing in the river evoked memories of my childhood, remembering my childhood in my hometown, Petaling Tin, KL, Malaysia. My sibling and the gang love to hang out near the river side, soon we arrive, we'll remove the slippers, roll up the pants, and plunge in the water and play. Those old days is full of joy and fun even we have no fancy toy to play with, our creativity and the peacefully neighborhood provide us many way and places to play. My brave gutsy Sister's Elaine is the leader, when comes to play, the boys have to stand back, she is the queen of all, I tell you, she got us in so much fun, winning at most time and trouble too, I remember my oldest sister use to come home and Elaine always got ROTAN for being too busy outside playing and no house work got done! Ha!I guess that her consequences for being the Queen at play...
For my boy, he's cannot plunge in the river play like us, his dad get quite paranoid, not allowing him to go too close to the water, it may be too dangerous, you know, he's too precious, he need to be protected, I think it's quite paranormal for today parent! Don't you think? We had a little adventure when returning home, we took a short cut but it was terrible, we got poked by the spiky dried grasses and plants, my boy commented our decision taking the short cut path was no fun and not wise at all...

08 October 2007

景色怡人 Autumn in Calgary

到公園時、D風一陣一陣輕輕吹、高高掛在樹枝上黄金色的葉子一片片往下飄,再加清新的空氣和恬靜的環境,令我們都能享受這種大自然的美景,真快樂!所以讓我把這美丽的大自然拍下請大家分享下!Fall is here, I love Fall, it's so pretty, Fall in Calgary is different to compare with East coast (Toronto, Ontario, lots of Maple trees grow there not in Calgary) Most trees here will only turn into yellowish colors, only some in red, but it's still gorgeous. Look, look at the beauty of nature, we are blessed! but soon will be Winter, hmmmm not really looking forward!
Mean time, let me share the Fall scenery in Calgary with you all. I hope you too can feel the breeze in the air......公公手拿報紙,眼看美.........景!哈媽咪好扮嘢!